Creating a Positive and Supportive Foundation

Talking to kids about health and body image can feel tricky, but it’s one of the most important conversations you can have. Kids of all ages are constantly picking up messages about their bodies, food, and what it means to be “healthy.” As a parent or caregiver, you have a powerful role in shaping how they view themselves.

The goal isn’t to focus on weight or appearance, but to help your child build a positive relationship with their body, food, and overall well-being.

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Start Early and Keep It Age-Appropriate

You don’t have to wait until your child is a teen to start these conversations. In fact, early and ongoing discussions make it easier for kids to develop confidence and self-awareness.

Young children benefit from simple messages like “All bodies are different, and that’s okay.” Older kids and teens might have more questions about dieting, exercise, or comparing themselves to others—especially people they see online. Be open and honest, and try to listen more than you speak.

Focus on Health, Not Weight

Avoid making weight a central topic. Instead, talk about what it means to feel strong, energized, and healthy.

Try phrases like:

  • “Let’s eat foods that give our bodies energy.”
  • “Moving our bodies helps us feel good, be stronger, and sleep better.”

This keeps the conversation centered on how they feel and how their bodies work, not how they look.

Be Mindful of Your Own Language

Kids watch how you talk about yourself, too. If they hear you criticize your own body or food choices, they may internalize those same judgments. Aim to model body respect and self-care rather than negativity or guilt. Swap out phrases like “I need to go on a diet” for “I want to feel stronger and more energized.”

Help Them Navigate Media and Social Pressures

Many kids struggle with unrealistic body ideals they see online. Teach them that health looks different for everyone, and social media doesn’t always reflect real life. Explain the realities of photo editing, weight loss supplements, cosmetic surgeries, and other factors like age and wealth that might come into play.

Encourage Open Dialogue

Let your child know they can come to you with questions without fear of judgment. If they express concerns about their body or food, listen closely. Sometimes, these conversations may reveal deeper emotions, and it’s okay to seek support from a pediatrician or mental health provider.

This article is meant for informational purposes only. If you have questions or would like further information, make an appointment with your primary care provider.

This blog post was first published on WFMCHealth.org.