Making the move to assisted living is a huge life change for seniors and their families. Even making the initial decision to do so can bring a lot of mixed emotions. While the transition can bring greater safety, support, and social opportunities, it can feel overwhelming in the beginning—especially for those who have been independent for so long.
If you’re helping a loved one make the move (or preparing for it yourself), careful planning and open conversations can make the adjustment much easier. Here are a few ways you can navigate this chapter together and make assisted living feel more like home.
1. Have Open and Honest Conversations
Talking about assisted living can be difficult, especially if a loved one is hesitant about the change. Some seniors worry about losing independence, while others might feel emotional about leaving their longtime home.
Approaching the conversation with empathy and patience can help. Focus on the benefits and amenities of assisted living, like safety, less stress over meals and home maintenance, and social opportunities. Truly listen to your loved ones when they share their thoughts and concerns, and let them be involved in the decision-making process as much as possible.
If you meet some resistance, try visiting a few assisted living communities together to help them get a better feel for what to expect. Seeing a welcoming environment, friendly residents, and kind staff may ease their concerns.
2. Choose the Right Community
Not all assisted living communities are the same. Each one offers different amenities, levels of care, and social environments. Be sure to do your research on potential communities and visit a few before making any decisions.
When researching potential assisted living communities, consider:
- The types of care and services offered
- The cleanliness and upkeep of the facility
- The friendliness of staff and residents
- Dining options and meal quality
- Activities and social engagement opportunities
A good fit will provide the right balance of independence, assistance, and a welcoming environment that feels like home.
3. Help with Downsizing and Packing
Making the move to an assisted living community typically means downsizing to a smaller apartment or living space. For people that have lived in the same home and/or accumulated decades-worth of belongings, downsizing can be a really emotional process.
Be patient when helping your loved one decide which items are most important to bring. Focus on a mix of essentials and sentimental items that will make their new space feel familiar. Consider donating or passing down items they no longer need or have space for, and reassure them that their cherished belongings will be well cared for.
4. Personalize the New Living Space
An important part of the transition to assisted living is making the apartment feel like home. Bring favorite furniture pieces, decorations, framed photos, and personal keepsakes to create a familiar space.
Encourage your loved one to arrange their belongings in a way that feels natural to them. Small, comforting touches like their favorite blanket, books, or a familiar scent can also help with the transition.
5. Stay Involved and Supportive
It’s normal for seniors to experience a lot of mixed emotions when adjusting to their new home. Stay connected with them by visiting regularly, encouraging participation in community activities, and checking in often.
You can also support them in their adjustment by helping them establish a new routine. Many assisted living communities offer social events, hobby groups, and even fitness programs, which can help them make new friends. If challenges come up, listen to their concerns and work with staff to find solutions. It can take time to adjust, but patience and support can help the transition be positive and fulfilling.
While the transition to assisted living is a big life change, thoughtful planning and the right support can help it be a positive experience. Open conversations, choosing the right community, personalizing the space, and staying involved can help your loved one(s) settle into their next chapter with a sense of belonging.